My Beloved Sister,
There are so many things we could talk about under the topic "What marriage does not do for you". Just to spice things up a little, I will begin another series then come back to this topic.
But not without telling you that Marriage does not eliminate temptations, especially sexual temptations.
My Beloved sister, if you thought that once you get married, all your sexual temptations would be eliminated, then it’s time to change your thinking. The person you were before you got married is the person you remain while married. You are only merging yourself with someone else. You are still made of the same weaknesses and the same strengths.
If as a single lady every TDH (Tall Dark and Handsome) made your heart skip a beat, chances are while married, TDH will still make your heart skip a beat. If while single you found it difficult remaining faithful to the person you were dating, those things that distracted you will still distract you in marriage. If you were bisexual, waking up married in a man’s arms will not prevent the thoughts of women from creeping up. And if all you did was focus on married men, marriage is not going to stop that. The only things marriage can do is to constrain you, only for a while or leave you struggling with temptation all through the marriage.
Sexual purity is a treasure in marriage. Think of a wedding night where the previous night you slept with him (in this case, he is no longer a king). Compare it to a wedding night where you’ve waited years for his touch. The excitement and ecstasy from the latter is indescribable. When you were warned not to “do anything with any boy”, it was not because someone wanted to deprive you of pleasure. It was actually to preserve you for bliss. Don’t feel condemned if your hymen has been broken. You can still attain sexual purity from a spiritual point of view. You can do it.
I want you to enjoy your marriage to your king and be able to overcome any sexual temptations that could come your way. You don’t want a phone call from an ex-boyfriend to spoil dinner with your king. So before you go in, it is best to solve any sexual temptations from the root.
Where does sin start from? From the mind. Before it is actually committed, it must have been conceived. To solve the problem, the mind has to be renewed. The only thing that has power to renew your mind is the Word of God. This renewal of the mind is not done overnight. It is a continuous process. It is not about how strong-willed you are. You need help. Find someone who you can be accountable to. Do not be ashamed to discuss it with someone who can help, like a counselor or a pastor. The time to start praying for sexual purity is now and it does not end today.
If you are already married, it is not too late to ask God for forgiveness and ask Him to teach you how to remain faithful to your husband (emotional, mental and physical faithfulness).
Recommended Reading
1. The Bible
2. Inviting God to your wedding and Keeping God in your marriage by Martha Williamson. Section on “Dousing old flames and severing soul ties”.
3. Woman Thou Art Loosed by Bishop T.D. Jakes.
My Beloved sister, if you thought that once you get married, all your sexual temptations would be eliminated, then it’s time to change your thinking. The person you were before you got married is the person you remain while married. You are only merging yourself with someone else. You are still made of the same weaknesses and the same strengths.
If as a single lady every TDH (Tall Dark and Handsome) made your heart skip a beat, chances are while married, TDH will still make your heart skip a beat. If while single you found it difficult remaining faithful to the person you were dating, those things that distracted you will still distract you in marriage. If you were bisexual, waking up married in a man’s arms will not prevent the thoughts of women from creeping up. And if all you did was focus on married men, marriage is not going to stop that. The only things marriage can do is to constrain you, only for a while or leave you struggling with temptation all through the marriage.
Sexual purity is a treasure in marriage. Think of a wedding night where the previous night you slept with him (in this case, he is no longer a king). Compare it to a wedding night where you’ve waited years for his touch. The excitement and ecstasy from the latter is indescribable. When you were warned not to “do anything with any boy”, it was not because someone wanted to deprive you of pleasure. It was actually to preserve you for bliss. Don’t feel condemned if your hymen has been broken. You can still attain sexual purity from a spiritual point of view. You can do it.
I want you to enjoy your marriage to your king and be able to overcome any sexual temptations that could come your way. You don’t want a phone call from an ex-boyfriend to spoil dinner with your king. So before you go in, it is best to solve any sexual temptations from the root.
Where does sin start from? From the mind. Before it is actually committed, it must have been conceived. To solve the problem, the mind has to be renewed. The only thing that has power to renew your mind is the Word of God. This renewal of the mind is not done overnight. It is a continuous process. It is not about how strong-willed you are. You need help. Find someone who you can be accountable to. Do not be ashamed to discuss it with someone who can help, like a counselor or a pastor. The time to start praying for sexual purity is now and it does not end today.
If you are already married, it is not too late to ask God for forgiveness and ask Him to teach you how to remain faithful to your husband (emotional, mental and physical faithfulness).
Recommended Reading
1. The Bible
2. Inviting God to your wedding and Keeping God in your marriage by Martha Williamson. Section on “Dousing old flames and severing soul ties”.
3. Woman Thou Art Loosed by Bishop T.D. Jakes.
My Very Best Wishes...
1 comments:
Wonderful words of wisdom. Thank You.
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