My Beloved Sisters,
I cannot believe I have not written in a long while. But without doubt, I always had you in my thoughts. I have done my research on causes of conflict in relationships and marriage. I came up with these 3 things as causes (in no particular order):
1.External factors
2.Money
3.Sex
In subsequent posts, I will expantiate on them but I am not in a hurry, especially because of how easily we take for granted the "External Factors".
Today, I am saying "Wait a Minute, Sisters!"
Just a few questions:
Will you marry him if you knew
1. He does not clean up his own mess. He will wait for you to do it?
2. He cannot head the family spiritually because he believes women are the spiritual beings?
3. He cannot take care of himself?
4. He cannot manage money and resources, and he feels women are accountants?
5. He will not encourage your dreams?
6. He does not know how to cook and yet does not want an alternative to home-cooked meals?
7. He does not see you as a partner but as a slave?
8. He will not be faithful to you and not regard how you feel about it?
9. He does not really share the same values as you do, though he is currently pretending to?
10. The both of you do not like each other's friends?
11. He will leave you to make the decisions?
12. He lies?
Beloved, I am not giving you a checklist or a guide. I am simply saying 2 things:
1. As you prepare for your king, you need to look beyond the physical and satisfying your current wants. Imagine 3 years with him.
2. For the guys, I am sure you want a "queen" but you have to start preparing for her. She probably has her checklist.
Recommended Reading
1. How To Choose A Life Partner: 165 Questions To Ask by Pastor Bimbo Odukoya
2. Preparing for Marriage God's Way: A Step-By-Step Guide for Marriage Readiness and After-The-Wedding Conflicts by Mack, Wayne A.
My Very Best Wishes...
