Causes of Conflict [2]

My beloved Sister,

Let's move on to the other causes of conflict in marriage. In my previous posts, I have listed the 3 main causes of conflict as:-

1. The Unassuming Factors
   
2. Money
   
3. Sex
   

Today we will look at Money.

Several studies [1], [2], and [3] have shown that Money is a big source of conflict in marriage. It is either not enough or it is too much, or it is not managed wisely, or one person is hoarding it. As you prepare for your King, I would like you to be aware of this issue and suggest ways you can prevent or be prepared for it.

1. Evaluate how you manage your money now: - Take a good look at how you currently manage money whether little or much. Are you always broke? Do you lend to people who do not pay back? Are you always borrowing or do you spend money on things that you cannot account for? If your answer is yes to any of the above questions, then it means you need to take some time to develop ways of managing your money.
   
2. Work with a budget: - When a man sees a woman who knows how to manage money, he is not afraid to give all of his to her. That is how I want your King to trust you. Use this period to prepare monthly budgets at evaluate yourself at the end of the month to see how you are doing. A budget does not mean you do not spend money. It is one means of tracking what you spend money on. Over time, you will see what areas take your money and you will also see areas where you need to cut costs.
   
3. Savings: - whether you work or not, you should have your savings. The act of saving little builds in you a culture that will help you save much. Your savings gives you a level of dependence [like you do not have to buy a gift for your king with the money he gave you].
   

Just to add that before and during marriage, you will need to discuss the plan for finances with your King. This will also help to reduce conflicts due to money.

 

My Very Best Wishes

Recommended Reading

1. God's Plans for Your Finances by Dwight Nichols
   
2. Double WOW [Women of Worth, Women of Wealth] by Believer
   

 

References

[1] Managing Conflict in Marriage

[2] Money and Marriage: How to Resolve the Conflict With Your Partner

[3] How to Avoid Arguing with Your Spouse Over Money