tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-67560364429496932112011-04-21T19:08:33.815+01:00Ritanoreply@blogger.comBlogger221100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-4282416854755996132009-04-21T07:21:00.001+01:002009-04-21T07:21:14.450+01:00

My beloved Sister,Let's move on to the other causes of conflict in marriage. In my previous posts, I have listed the 3 main causes of conflict as:-The Unassuming Factors MoneySexToday we will look at Money.Several studies [1], [2], and [3] have shown that Money is a big source of conflict in marriage. It is either not enough or it is too much, or it is not managed wisely, or one person is

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My Beloved Sister,How have you been doing? I hope you've growing strong in your relationship with God and people.In this post, I would like to focus on the series “Causes of conflict in marriage”. Like I previously mentioned, knowing what they are can help you identify them if they come up, or prevent them from occurring. Several studies have been done on this but in my opinion, I would

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My Beloved Sisters,I cannot believe I have not written in a long while. But without doubt, I always had you in my thoughts. I have done my research on causes of conflict in relationships and marriage. I came up with these 3 things as causes (in no particular order):1.External factors 2.Money3.SexIn subsequent posts, I will expantiate on them but I am not in a hurry, especially because of how

Ritanoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-33242092342937922782008-11-03T19:57:00.003+01:002008-11-03T20:15:26.224+01:00

My Beloved Sister,Hope you are being filled with hope. I am currently doing some research for the next three stimulating messages, which will cover the three top causes of conflict in marriage. In the mean time, read a little about Preparing for Marriage "in the positive way". You can do the relationship quiz and love test for the fun of it. My Very Best Wishes...

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My Beloved Sister,I will always say it, that women are great people. And so are you. I have been in touch and observed many women in the past few weeks. When I think of all they do – as sisters, friends, girlfriends, mothers and wives, I just appreciate them.One of the best ways of getting experience before starting a job is through internship, as we see in most professional courses. Being

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My Beloved Sister,I don’t know about you, but I have learnt a lot from sharing with you the messages on Reciprocity. The comments from readers have really taught me alot. Now I am ready to give Trust, Respect and Love, and expect same in return because they are reciprocal. What about you?Today’s message is about Making Male Friends. One of the mistakes single ladies make is once a man speaks to

Ritanoreply@blogger.com15tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-17416710890504374552008-09-20T17:27:00.001+01:002008-09-27T09:56:10.025+01:00

My Beloved Sister,How are you doing? Hope you have found the previous messages useful.Today we'd finish the series on Reciprocity with "Love is Reciprocal". My assumption is that you have understood that Trust and Respect will help with the foundation of Love.Let me mention 3 types of love relevant for this context:Eros, Philia and Agape. Visit HERE for details on the 3 types of love.The Love I'd

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My Beloved Sister, before I finalize on Reciprocity, I'd like to show you some guidelines for wives that I overheard some men discussing. http://www.j-walk.com/other/goodwife/images/goodwifeguide.gifhttp://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp 1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know

Ritanoreply@blogger.com23tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-11238057550539227092008-09-06T21:41:00.000+01:002008-09-06T21:42:08.047+01:00

My Beloved Sister,Let's move on to something else that is reciprocal, that is something else which if you give, you will receive. Today's message is "Respect is Reciprocal".I am sure one of your desires is that your king will treat you with respect. You want him to place you on a pedestal. Let's leave money, family, education and job aside as reasons why he should or should not respect you. Let's

Ritanoreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-90901002988068219152008-08-31T21:44:00.003+01:002008-08-31T21:51:07.388+01:00

My Beloved Sister,I hope you’ve got to know more about yourself with the last post. Today begins the reciprocity series. We will be looking at things that are reciprocal. If you want to have them, you will have to give them.Today’s message is Trust is Reciprocal.There is a lot of mistrust in the world today. Imagine that the love story of most young girls begin with either rape or heartbreak. How

Ritanoreply@blogger.com22tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-80384865870088148012008-08-28T14:29:00.001+01:002008-08-28T14:31:45.488+01:00

My Beloved Sister,Let’s finish today with the series on what we can learn from Mary and Martha so we move to other things. For now, what we will learn from Mary and Martha is “Knowing Love Languages is Important”.Mary and Martha both loved Jesus Christ, this is from my point of view. Martha cooked her best for Him. Mary made a big sacrifice for Him. Both said “I Love You” in different ways.Let me

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My Beloved Sister,There's something more to learn from Mary and Martha. This time we'll focus on Martha. And Today's message is "Cooking and Serving is a Ministry".I don't know why I chose this topic but we'll flow with it.Do you remember the adage "The Way to a Man's Heart is through his stomach"? Some men agree that once they find a lady attractive, being able to cook is an added advantage.

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My beloved Sister, how are your preparations going? I hope well. Let’s digress a bit to something we need to know before continuing with what we can learn from Mary and Martha. Today’s message is “You are not your past”.Some of our actions or decisions are based on things that have happened in our past. Some times, this past holds us to ransom. As you prepare for your king, I would like you to

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My Beloved Sister, I hope you have gathered more zeal in preparing for your king. I am praying for you. In the next few messages, we will be looking at what we can learn from Mary and Martha in the Bible.Let’s start with Mary first. In preparing for your king, you need to focus on Getting the Right Value System.Why is the right value system important? Because every choice and decision you make is

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My Beloved Sister, there is a lot we can learn from Esther. I hope you read more about her and get some tips which I may not mention.Today’s lesson from Esther is “Character Matters”.One great thing about Esther is that she obtained favour in the sight of all that looked upon her. It is established that Esther was beautiful. Don’t you think that this was reason for people to be envious of her?

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My Beloved Sister,Not only are you going to keep your King’s heart with your beauty, you will keep his heart with things more valuable than physical beauty.Today’s message is on Developing Your Spirit. One thing that was different about Esther was she knew what to do and what to say. This was evident before and after she became queen. Such wisdom does not come from intelligence, experience or

Ritanoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-11834975487005021462008-08-02T21:58:00.002+01:002008-08-02T22:05:08.111+01:00

My Beloved Sister,It is true that someone who loves you will love you for who you are, but there are certain things about yourself that you should not take for granted. I thought taking care of the body was not as important as having a good and loving heart. I don’t want you to think that way. The lessons from Esther are to show how important it is to take care of the body, mind and spirit as you

Ritanoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-55846656556075190472008-07-29T23:45:00.003+01:002008-07-30T00:34:23.471+01:00

My Beloved Sister, before we go on, let’s pause and talk about this King you are preparing for.Every woman has (or had) this dream guy, a perfect guy that would come to her rescue someday. Please do not feel concerned that you want that man of your dreams. Maybe one or more heartbreaks have eroded you of any further thoughts about this dream guy. Maybe the man in your life is the opposite of all

Ritanoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-55629598470253133482008-07-28T22:01:00.003+01:002008-07-28T22:33:41.624+01:00

My Beloved Sister,There are so many things we could talk about under the topic "What marriage does not do for you". Just to spice things up a little, I will begin another series then come back to this topic.But not without telling you that Marriage does not eliminate temptations, especially sexual temptations.My Beloved sister, if you thought that once you get married, all your sexual temptations

Ritanoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-63041387185478983262008-07-27T15:24:00.002+01:002008-07-27T15:38:59.357+01:00

My Beloved sister, today we will continue looking at things that marriage does not do for you. Today's message is on Marriage Does Not Cure Loneliness.One great benefit of marriage is companionship. God, who authored marriage, said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him” [Gen 2:18 NLT]. Adam was very excited about this decision of God (I’m sure

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My Beloved Sister,In the weeks that follow, we will be looking at a couple of things marriage won’t do for you… so you don’t get the wrong impression and expectations. Today’s message is on Marriage Does Not Give You Purpose.A lot of young women believe that once they get married, they have fulfilled their purpose on earth. In my opinion, that is myopic. Every person has a purpose and it is

Ritanoreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6756036442949693211.post-5212553155662833692008-07-24T21:56:00.002+01:002008-07-24T22:06:03.232+01:00

My Beloved Sister,I recall a statement you made when I announced that I had accepted a marriage proposal. You said "I have never seen anyone so filled with joy and looking fulfilled!" I pondered on these words. No, it was not the marriage proposal that gave me joy. It was that joy inexplicable; the peace that passes all understanding that comes from God alone. Then the proposal followed. I write

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